So apparently, Budgee is going to be a downer in this thread. Should've guessed. He'll probably say he's a realist, but I think he's being a curmudgeon.

And I totally made the first move on my husband, so there!


My friends who use the internet for dating assistance don't get hundreds of thousands of responses. I think guys assume too often that a woman won't be interested before even trying. Or if they do try, they're setting themselves up for failure with the expectation they'll get rejected. A lot of interactions are messages that don't lead to anything, and that's ok. I have one friend who will talk to a guy for a few weeks first (especially if he's out of town so she can decide if he's worth a trip), so don't be distraught if it takes a while to set up an actual meet up. Of course I have another friend who goes straight for the date without any hesitation, even knowing ahead of time things that might make other chicks hesitate (like a mild CP diagnosis). So there's no science to it, and you might as well contact anyone who interests you.

For things to do out in the world, there are more options than just the bar scene. I've made some good connections through exercise classes and from joining my community orchestra. Granted, I'm not looking for dates, but I've added a few numbers to my phone this way. Think of something you like to do and find out where people are doing it. You're automatically guaranteed to have at least one thing in common with anyone you meet.

I also hear church is a great place to meet people, if you're into that sort of thing. I wouldn't know, and neither would my heathen friends.