Thousands of years of patriarchal culture that have made the sexes at constant conflict with one another? I mean, this goes back to Chaucer where his Wife of Bath, Franklin's, Knight's, and Merchant's tales all take different approaches to the institution and economy of marriage. In all save the Franklin's tale, one of the main points of focus is the general miscommunication and conflict between the sexes.

Now, I won't say that this is all patriarchal discourse, obviously biological elements are to be factored in but I'm no scientist so it's outside my field of speciality.

But let's take for example, a discussion on sex - the physical act etc.

Patriarchy demands of men that we are to be dominant, physical, empowering as opposed to women who are to be quiet and subservient. These notions of masculinity and femininity have evolved and therefore blurred throughout our times thanks to the dreaded third wave but walk into a clothes store today and you still get the picture.

Now don't bullshit me and say that it isn't true today, we've been categorising things by gender since our very concept of gender was realised. Sure, we outgrow things, but our primary socialisation will stick with us until we die. Institutions still push these principles, they've gotten better at it, but hey... look at these perfume ads we still get.



The man's body is strong, he dives into the water without care and the woman follows in pursuit. He walks the ladder first and assists her only to passionately embrace her as she's sucked in-

Oh god I'm writing porn. You get the point.



The symbol of the lotus is ingrained with birth and purity, and what's more pure than freaking birth? Ironically her purity clashes with her obvious objectification. It seems that even when she is the subject of the commercial, she is automatically made object with her lotus prison which she never leaves even as it blossoms.

But like I say, these ads are getting better



Note how the male retains his masculine image but is soon seduced and emasculated, his phallus (the arrow) literally torn by feminine power who walks away after she is satisfied, the phallus still in hand because she is sexually free to do what she desires, man in this ad becomes the object, the other.

But even if they have empowered her, the roles remain the same. Women are feminine, beautiful, deadly in their seductions and graceful. Though they have empowered the image of woman, the ad suggests no other alternative.

And this is the problem.

Going back to sex, see now that our approaches are different. Men are the 'key' and women are the 'lock', the metaphor stems from this idea that women are to be mastered and their mastery is a result of the man's skill at dominance. Slut shaming and the recurring desire for purity and chastity for females generally make them reserved with sex, and even when they grow out of this the stigma is still present.

I mean, for one this daddy's girl culture where a daughter "won't date" is still prevalent. Of course she'll date, but being put underneath that spotlight enforces the gendered myth of woman. It seriously is hard to break out of these roles completely and embrace your own image. Whether you're a guy or a girl.

I'm a student living with four of the most beautiful girls I've ever come to know and we talk about sex freely. However, how they are seen by others if they are to be "promiscuous" and "sleep around" is still a subject to be worried about. Their image must still be retained.

Though we've gone far from what the ideal for women was, elements of this are still to be found. You can never really slut shame a guy, his apparent status as a 'fuckboy' never hinders his pursuit for sexual partners because in the end, sex is something we want to have. But with patriarchy still being a thing, a woman's advances are seen as sultry, a man's is natural because "boys will be boys".

Yet the language is still the same.

"All men are the same" is exactly what "Bitches ain't nothin' but hoes and tricks" means.

I'm focusing on women here because they've been dealt the shitty hand in the patriarchy game, but this goes for men just as well. The recent attention to Male Suicide for one is a great step towards bridging this gap. Lots of shit (most of it ill informed) is said about the third wave of feminism, but if any criticism is to given is its lack of mainstream attention to the subject of toxic masculinity.

Bridging this gap can only be a half n half thing. The quicker these bullshit ideas of chivalry and the need for power or superiority on 'male subjects' like the sciences are erased the quicker we come to an understanding of eachother.

Sorry for going into this tangent, but it's the easiest way to fully explain some of the key points of this discussion. Hell, I've cut this short because I could've gone for a whiiiiiiiiiiiile.

Simply being that our miscommunication comes from this cultural divide of gender roles rather than something inherent. My 'understanding' of women became a lot clearer once I realised that some of their bs was because of this role they've placed themselves in/been placed in. Same as us dudes.

We gotta make an effort to make communication easier.

/rant.

Good rant.

Because vaginas are pink from the inside unless its mine because I haven't used it ever.

But joking (or is it?) Aside, it can be sort of a valid criticism. Colours being gendered is just a smaller part of a bigger problem with how stuff is usually just naturally gendered. Ever heard a woman's car, a man's drink? All 'dat bullshit.


Still, if the Women's Marches weren't already so neck deep in goals they wished to achieve. I mean, they were going to get enough flack from the Milorcs (I've learned how to turn names into derogative buzzwords from our US thread, i.e, Hillbots/Trumpanzees) already. Though gender equality is all about the our social structures and not case-to-case individual sexism (cos fuck me that would get no where) and that DOES include the way we gender stuff, it'd get those Marches no where if they wanted to address that goal as well.

It's not like guys were forbidden to wear them too, and they actually did. So it addresses that as well in the meanwhile.

Anyway found my next favourite Sjew Youtuber

I am always happy to find them.

Gary nailed it.

Are tights supposed to be ludicrously comfy, or is that just a placebo of me finally being able to do it? X)

Seiously. No way is it fair for these to be gendered clothing.

Depends on the shave, if you want a full shave shave. Get some shaving cream first and some toilet paper or tissues ready.

You wet your face, put some shaving cream on where you want to shave. Get the razor and wet it. Now since this is your first time shaving you're gunna bleed. Start at the top of the side of your face (either side works) where your hair and facial hair meet. Press the razor on it gently and give short flicks of your wrists downwards. Like wingardium leviosa swish and flick minus the swish. If you cut yourself don't worry about it just keep going.

Now that the sideburns are done, you'll want to do the same going across towards your mouth, with your upper lip you need to strech it out by making an awkward face so you don't accidentally cut yourself. The neck should be last because by then you should get the handle on how it feels and less chance of cutting your neck, which hurts the most.

After all facial hair has been removed wash it off, pat dry, if you missed any reapply cream to missed areas and finish it off. Once your face is dry and shaven grab little tidbits of toilet or tissue paper and apply to bleeding areas.


God... I feel like a dad right now x.x

tl;dr it's like shaving your legs but you need to take a lot more time and be more careful.

Its kinda amazing to me how many people I've seen in just skirts these past few days. Incidentally, its freezing, almost quite literally. 

Like, these things are amazing! Why's no one one wearing them X)

And oh, what's the deal with control tops? I'm still learning vocabulary here

Control tops are designed to be slimming. They're like spanx before spanx existed. The squeeze everything from your waist to your upper thighs. Not so comfy, but very smoothing.
Seriously, I just bought yellow and purple tights and my quality of life has drastically improve.

The purple ones are similar. Only more, you know, purple.